Imposter syndrome is a fact of life that many of us experience, regardless of our achievements or how hard we’ve worked. I wasn’t that young when I received my second ever promotion in my career. While many people have “manager” in their title by their 20s, such as becoming an assistant manager or leading a team, I only earned the title of manager at the ripe age of 37.
During this time, I couldn’t help but compare myself to my closest friends who were already at the Director level or even heads of their departments. Despite working diligently for five years in my company to earn that title, I still grappled with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. The moment that truly brought these feelings to the surface was when a Senior Director called to commend me on a job well done and mentioned she had informed her boss of my great work.
While I was happy to hear this, I couldn’t shake the uneasiness that followed. My mind was racing with thoughts like, “What if she realizes I don’t know anything at all?” or “What if she discovers I’m a fraud?”
Overcoming imposter syndrome is easier said than done, but it’s important to remember that everyone experiences these feelings at some point in their lives. Here are some steps I’ve found helpful in silencing the inner critic and embracing my true worth:
· Write Down Negative Self-Talk:
- Identify and document the negative thoughts your inner critic tells you. This helps in recognizing the patterns and frequency of your self-doubt.
· Look for Evidence of Your Capability:
- Reflect on past challenges and how you overcame them. What did you learn? How did you grow? This helps in reinforcing your resilience and capabilities.
· Shift to a Strengths-Based Perspective:
- Identify your natural skills and qualities. What are you good at? What do others often praise you for? Use these insights to create personal power statements.
· Create Personal Power Statements:
- Based on your strengths, craft affirmations that counteract negative self-talk. For example, “I’m quick on my feet and a fast learner. I am capable and deserving of my success.”
· Take Action:
- Implement actionable steps to combat negative thoughts. Whether it’s playing a powerful song, surrounding yourself with supportive people, or engaging in volunteer work, these actions can help reinforce your confidence.
Imposter syndrome may be a part of life, but it doesn’t have to define you. As Brené Brown wisely said, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.” This is a powerful reminder that your worth isn’t determined by your achievements alone.
Remember, the journey to overcoming imposter syndrome is ongoing. Show yourself compassion, believe in your abilities, and continue to grow.
You are enough. You have always been enough.
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